7 reasons you are struggling to let go of your stuff

7 Reasons You Are Struggling to Let Go of your Stuff

Have you ever tried to declutter your home, but found it difficult to let go of your things?. You may have known which room you wanted to tackle and even had a clear vision for the space once you were finished. But once you got started, you became overwhelmed by all the decisions. Suddenly, you found yourself unable to let go of stuffs that you hadn’t even thought about in a year.

So, what’s going on?

It’s common to feel attached to stuffs when it’s time to declutter. But these feelings can prevent us from reaching our goals. We may tell ourselves we need to hold onto items for a variety of reasons, such as not wanting to be wasteful.

Here are some of the most common reasons:

1. MONEY
Even though we spent the money when we purchased this item, it can feel wasteful to discard it, especially if it still has its tags on. Our brains may still be attached to the money the item represents, even though the money is gone. Unfortunately, by holding onto the item, we are not able to get our $100 back.

2. JUST IN CASE
We often cling to stuffs that we may struggle to let go of, even if we haven’t used them in decades, without recognizing that this does not benefit us in the present moment.

3. FAMILY LEGACY
Do you hold onto something that has been in your family for generations, like the silver candlesticks or the antique furniture that takes up a lot of space? As a curator of family heirlooms, we may feel a strong attachment to the past and find it difficult to let go of these stuffs , which may eventually end up with us.

4. LOSS OF IDENTITY
We often extend our identities into objects more than we realize, such as the sporty chick who can’t let go of her old football jerseys or the baby boomer who holds onto their roller skates from decades ago. Sometimes, we even have items in our wardrobes that represent a version of ourselves we don’t want to let go of, like a pair of jeans that “just might fit again one day.” When we forge such strong connections to physical items, it can be easy to forget that our memories and experiences are a part of us, even without those objects.

5. SENTIMENTAL
Have you ever smelled something that reminds you of a specific place, person, or experience? It can be a wonderful feeling to have sentimental items in our homes. However, when we start seeing everything as special and become unable to let go of these items, it can be a problem. We may get stuck in the past rather than living in the present.

6. FEAR OF FAILURE
It can be difficult to accept failure in life, and the same can be true for our possessions. When letting go of an item means closing the chapter on something we held out hope for, it can be tough. This might be a musical instrument we gave up on, a project we “were going to get to,” or a marathon we never trained for. By holding onto these things, we may try to convince ourselves that we haven’t failed yet. However, holding onto them may be holding us back.

7. REGRET
Have you ever worried that you might need something later if you declutter it? This is a common concern that clients express to us at Little Miss Organised. While it’s rare that this actually happens, it can still prevent people from decluttering, even though the chances are low. If you can relate to these feelings, you may be wondering what you can do to declutter stuffs that you feel attached to.

One key step is to reframe how you view the problem. Instead of focusing on what you might lose by letting go of these items, try to focus on what you might gain.

Side effects of letting go and getting organised

    • More space

    • More time

    • More money

    • Find things when you need them.

    • Better mental health

    • Better relationship

Decluttering can have a significant impact on your life and the lives of your family. If you feel stuck,

Here are a few quick tips that may help you honor your attachment to your things while still letting them go.

    • Worried about the money spent? Sell it online.

    • If you think you may need something in the future, try testing the theory. Give yourself a deadline, and if you haven’t used it by then, say goodbye.

    • If you’re fixated on the sentimental memories associated with an item, try selecting a few treasures to keep for display or use. Remember, when everything is unique, nothing is special.

    • If you’re struggling with a change in identity or a sense of failure, try thanking the item for how it served you in the past, accepting where you are in the present, and creating space for yourself to move forward. By letting go of the old, we can make room for the new.

    • Regret holding you back? Ask yourself this: what is the worst thing that will happen if I let this item go?

Are you getting ready to declutter a space in your home soon? Be sure to use these tips!

Want to learn more about ‘The Art of Letting Go’? Check out our podcast episode on the topic. For additional tips on getting started, download our free Decluttering Decision-Making Tree and Organizing Cheat Sheet.

If you’re serious about organizing your home and want professional guidance from industry experts, consider signing up for our online courses.

And as always, remember this… progress, not perfection.

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